Everybody has a destiny to their names. They just need to know the way to achieve it.
I have been rejected so many times in the past few months. But somehow I don’t curse those moments.
For it was those moments of failure that taught me the most valuable lessons of my life.
Success and Happiness
Success and happiness go hand in hand. Take out one, the other will suffocate to death.
What is the success anyway?
The one thing that has kept us human beings obsessed since creation.
Is it the money?
The fame?
Maybe the power to influence others?
The perfect partner?
Family?
Or having it all at once?
In all these years I have been hopping from one definition of success to another. At times I wanted to have large sums of money. Some days I wanted to be somebody famous. And most of the times I’ve wanted to have it all.
Your definition of success is largely shaped and directly correlated with what you have been experiencing so far.
Your past pain. Your past defeats. Past failures.
But whatever it might be, it will have one common denominator with all the others — finding happiness, finding your destiny.
It took me years to realize that defining success as the possession of money and fame is a very limiting belief.
None of the above can be the metric for success.
Success is BEING happy and one can only be happy if he or she is living the life he or she is capable of. The life they are meant to live. The realization of the gift that you were blessed with.
The real secret to happiness is in finding yourself. In the knowing of who you are, your calling and living the life you were created to live.
Success is nothing but the progress of oneself
If you must compare yourself to anybody then compare to only oneself.
You.
All this time I had been seeking happiness from the outside. I had attached myself to the thought of being loved selflessly.
My never ending thirst for love pulled me down into the trenches of failure only to realize that there is NO Out-there.
Whatever you’re seeking is not outside. It’s within.
You don’t need any validation from any external being.
There will be no perfect person who’ll come into your life and as if by magic take away all your worries so that you can have what you want to have. Or you can be who you want to be.
You’re complete.
You’re perfect.
You don’t need any outside validation to complete your completeness.
Your business, your life, your happiness is in direct correlation with one and one being only.
You.
Success equals happiness and happiness lie in your personal growth.
Your success is determined by your ability to withstand the storm. To stand in the face of no results longer than anybody else.
As in the words of Winston Churchill,
You want your outside world to expand?
Expand your inner world.
And when you do that you’ll see your life expanding.
You have to realize that each area in your life is interconnected like a house of cards — each card standing in a perfect balance supporting the other cards. One card falls out of place and all the others will lose their balance too.
You have to make sure all your cards are in a perfect balance.
Do you want that kick a** business?
Do you want great relationships? Work on your relationships.
Do you want great health? Work on your health.
Each area of life has its strings attached to the other one. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you’ll get off that hamster wheel.
Trust The Process
Our current reality is a perfect mirror of our choices that we’ve made in the past.
All of us go through the suffering of some kind. There is no easy way round.
You’ve hit the rock bottom in your life? Be glad.
Why? Because now the only direction is up.
In the words of Jordan Belfort,
It is in these moments of failure and despair that you discover those things about yourself that you didn’t even know existed within you.
Trust life.
Trust the process.
Trust the circumstances.
At the end, all the pieces of the puzzle will fall back into place. All things will show up at their own perfect divine timing.
This mystery, that we call life, will start making sense.
But the only condition is to keep moving forward.
Keep moving in the face of adversity.
Keep moving when there is no hope.
Keep moving even when you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Keep moving when you don’t feel like moving.
You Are The X Factor In Your Equation Of Life
It is your willingness to step out of your comfort zone that will determine how far you can go on your journey.
And on your way, the only thing that is in your control is The Hustle. Once you take care of that, the rest takes care of itself.
Start working on yourself. Start working on your dreams. You don’t have to see what’s beyond the clouds.
All you need to do is have faith.
Faith in yourself.
Faith in the fact that everything and everyone we encounter in our lives is an opportunity for us to grow. Some test us. Some teach us. Some bring out the best of us.
Have faith in the fact that the universe has reserved a destiny with your name on it. All you need to do is to step up and get it.
Don’t spend your life living somebody else’s life, working towards somebody else’s idea of a perfect life.
Don’t get trapped in the thought that you don’t have the resources.
It’s not about how much you have. It’s about how much you make out of what you have that will get you to your destiny.
Tony Robbins always says,
Knock out your fears
My year-long struggles taught me that fear will always be a player in our lives.
It will always be there as the stumbling blocks on our path to success.
But fear is just an illusion.
It’s just a bodily sensation. Don’t run away from it. Seek it. Let fear to be your guide.
Your only competition is you and the only challenge is to defeat your long-held, deeply cultivated dis-empowering limiting beliefs about yourself.
There is no “one day”. There is no “some day”.
The only day is Today.
There will be no one circumstance that will turn your life around. Turn you into the person who you’ve imagined to be one day.
Don’t wait for that “some day” to Be Happy.
To be bold. To be brave. To be who you want to be.
Today is The Day and right now is The Right Moment.
Your greatest life lies on the opposite side of your fear.
Deep inside we all have thirst for happiness. Hunger for freedom. Drive to create. To build. To be empowered. To serve.
But all of it lies on the other side of fear.
We succumb to fears. We justify our fears by telling ourselves stories about why we can’t have it.
“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m not smart enough.”
“How can I do this?”
“Why would anyone like my work? There are already so many great people out there.”
But the truth is we lack courage. Courage to take the leap on the other side where fear lives.
Instead of being used by fear, use fear.
It’s the guiding light to exactly what you need to take action on. Make fear your best friend, not foe.
Breaking free from fear doesn’t come easy. It’s very hard.
But when you do that you’ll see that it was just an illusion and it will never materialize into physical reality.
There is no fear of failure. It’s that fuel that has never burned inside of you before. Because even if you fail, the preparation is so strong that you can use it to turn into the outcome you desire. — Tim Grover
Get out of the victim mentality
THERE ARE TWO PRIMARY CHOICES IN LIFE: TO ACCEPT CONDITIONS AS THEY EXIST, OR TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY TO CHANGE THEM. — DENIS WAITLY
In life, you’ll always be faced with two options. To be a victim or to be a victor.
Be the victor. Choose victory over defeat. Fight. Do everything in your power.
Take your life to a whole new level. All you need to be who you want to be is already in there. You just have to activate it.
Not tomorrow. Not the day after. Right now.
Going through the worst heartbreak, experiencing the ugliest of failures are the best things that could happen to you. Because only when you’ve been in the deepest valley you can feel how magnificent it feels to be on the highest mountain.
Forgive your past. See yourself as powerful.Seek failure because it is your pain where your growth is.
Push yourself beyond what’s expected of you. Live a no-excuse life and become a no-matter-what person.
Know that you were created for a purpose.
Know that you were sent to this Earth with a gift. Find out what it is, focus all your energies on it and use it to … Follow your destiny.
Make the rest of your life the best of your life — Eric Thomas
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